HOW CAN YOU AVOID MAKING ENEMIES
Regards to my elders
Greetings ladies and gentlemen
Aloha friends. Dale Carnegie ain’t leaving me for sure. The ideas I will talk about will be directly influenced by Dale Carnegie’s book ‘ How to Win Friends and Influence People ‘. So my proper respects and acknowledgements to Dale Carnegie and Pocket Book International. HOW CAN YOU AVOID MAKING ENEMIES.
What makes a person either it is a girl or boy , smart and beautiful. I am not talking about a person’s attitude or anything else. Just by his face, how do you recognize a person as a smart one on first sight? Chetan Bhagat has the answer. Right features in the right place, though he asks why nature messes in this most of the times. What else can we ask for.
UNDERSTAND THE OTHER PERSONS FEELING
.Theodore Roosevelt himself said that , if he would have been correct 75 percent of the times, he would reach the highest level of his expectations. Now, we as average one’s can’t be correct half of the times. Why to tell the other one that he is wrong. Consider you are in argument with a person, debating about a thing about right or wrong. By a method suppose, either it is by pointing a gun in his stomach or by using high voices, do you really make him agree with your way of thinking. No sir, for you gentlemen have given a direct kick to the other persons point of view, his thoughts, his pride, his feeling of importance, his self respect. This my friends will make them strike back, to take revenge. Even if you try to prove by logic, the other is not going to understand, for you have hurt his feelings before.
Mr Carnegie says that if you are going to prove the other wrong, do it so subtly that no one feels you are hurting them. Galileo said, “ You cannot teach a man anything, you can only help him to find it within himself .”
Mr Dale says that never start anybody by telling straight that he is wrong. This arouses challenge. Even if you are wrong tell the other person that you thought otherwise and you may be wrong and if you are wrong you want to correct it and lets together examine the facts. This will immediately have the necessary effect, and you can look forward to a long and healthy talk without arousing resentment. By saying that you too might be wrong, you can make the other person to be fair and hope that he can be wrong as well.
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If you are truly wrong, it is good to admit it quickly because this will show your open mindedness and will tell the other person how good your perception of right and wrong is. So if you want to prove you point, prove it by the way Dale Carnegie does and see wonders work in your way.
My proper acknowledgements and respect to Dale Carnegie and Pocket Book International.
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PS: This stuff is not for those who think of shredding there opponents with punches, think of a fist fight on the scene whenever they meet them.
Ok bye..I hope I continue in future.