HOW TO BE A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST
Regards to my elders
Greetings ladies and gentlemen
Aloha friends. Please I am not advertising for the Pokemon:sun and moon series. You know the ceremony by heart now i guess. I am back with Dale Carnegie’s lesson from the book ‘ How to Win Friends and Influence People ‘. My proper acknowledgements to Dale Carnegie. HOW TO BE A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST.
AN EASY WAY TO BE A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST
Internet connections were cut in Jammu and Kashmir yesterday. The reason being that Lashkar-e-Taiba militants attacked a bus with 61 pilgrims on board on the way to Amarnath Shrine. Sadly, 7 out of 61 were killed in the attack as the driver, Saleem Sheikh, managed to save the other pilgrims life. May the departed rest in peace. Before I came to know about this I thought why my friends are not responding to me on Facebook. All offline, am I not a good conversationalist?.
You see, we are not able to strike a conversation with people sometimes. This thing generally gives rise to fear of conversation. And we only get afraid of the thing we don’t see, we don’t understand. To be a good conversationalist you have to be a good listener. You see a person you are talking to is more interested in himself than you. We humans have the tendency to only talk about themselves and care about themselves. That’s not our fault, we have been patented that way. Mr Carnegie says, that if you want to talk to others about you, you have to first talk about themselves. Whenever talking to someone, talk about them only and be an attentive and good listener. Mr Carnegie says that by listening calmly to the other person impresses him. In this way you are paying him a subtle compliment. You are arousing in him a feeling of importance. And in this way you can make the other person think that you are good conversationalist even with out uttering a simple word.
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If you are at a conversation with a person from whom you are gaining information/knowledge you have to tell that person about how much his advise means to you and how much you got entertained. This way you can easily earn respect in the eyes of the wise one. But one thing more, people who only talk of themselves think only of themselves. To be the ultimate conversationalist you have to interrupt in between and ask questions which the speaker would love to answer. Be an attentive and good listener. Provide necessary reactions and see how you will be on the path of a good conversationalist.
My full regards and acknowledgement to Dale Carnegie and Pocket Book International.
PS: Who ever applies these rules in their marriage life is at his own risk. Though I assure these will help in your daily life.
Ok bye…I hope I continue in future.