WAYS YOU CAN CRITICIZE AND AVOID RESENTMENT
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Aloha Friends. Having trouble criticizing others without arousing hatred? Does criticizing backfires on you most of the times? Here are 3 simple ways with which you can a criticize without the plan reversing on you. This can be applied in day to day life. WAYS YOU CAN CRITICIZE AND AVOID RESENTMENT.
START WITH SOMETHING GOOD
By saying that you have to start with something good doesn’t mean you have to present a bouquet or something to the person you are going to criticize. Start with something good means that you can begin with a praise before criticizing. We all know that it is easy to hear about the unpleasant things we have done if we have heard some praise first. It is just like cushion which softens the impact of a mass hitting the ground. Starting with a praise before telling the person about his faults can result in very less or no negative feelings in the person about you. It is somewhat in the same way as a barber lathers a man before shaving him.
ACCEPT YOUR MISTAKES FIRST
Acknowledging or accepting your mistakes first can help you a lot. It will make the other person understand that if you are wrong then he can be wrong as well. This will show your sense of justice and will not effect his feeling of importance, his self-esteem. It is easy to hear the recital of your faults if the person criticizing talks about his mistakes first. A good leader always follow the principle that he will criticize himself even if the fault is negligible before criticizing others.
CALL ATTENTION TO MISTAKES INDIRECTLY
I will explain this point with an example. Many parents do praise there children before criticizing. Consider this, ” Son, I am happy with your performance in this months paper but it would have been good if you had performed good in maths so that your overall performance would be good“. The word ‘ but ‘ followed by a critical statement makes the kid think that you are not giving due credit to him. Kids are smart enough to figure this out and question your praise in return. If you say,” Son, I am happy with your performance in this months paper and we will work together to improve your performance in maths as well“. This will have the desired effect as the praise is not followed by a fault. In this way you can call attention to others mistakes indirectly in any situation.
The ideas I talked about were influenced by Dale Carnegie’s book ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’. So my proper respects and acknowledgement to Dale Carnegie and Pocket Book International.
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